Taught by Deborah Burns, LPC
Mindful Self-Compassion (MSC) is an empirically supported 8-week training program designed to cultivate the skill of self-compassion. Based on the groundbreaking research of Kristin Neff and the clinical expertise of Christopher Germer, MSC teaches core principles and practices that enable participants to respond to difficult moments in their lives with kindness, care and understanding. Participating in the MSC program can assist in transforming your relationship with yourself through the notion of ‘attending and befriending,’ kind attentiveness to self. This is quite a different approach than the usual one taken in our busy lives of the ‘subtle aggression of self- improvement'. The formal and informal practices taught in the MSC program are intended as a way of developing a mindful, warm and kind friendliness to one’s self.
The three key components of self-compassion are self-kindness, a sense of common humanity, and balanced, mindful awareness.
***Kindness opens our hearts to suffering, so we can give ourselves what we need in those difficult times.
***Common humanity opens us to our essential interrelatedness, so that we know we aren't alone, and we understand the fact that being human means not being perfect.
***Mindfulness opens us to the present moment, so we can accept our experience with greater ease. Together they comprise a state of warm-hearted, connected presence.
Self-compassion can be learned by anyone, even those who didn't receive enough affection in childhood or who feel uncomfortable when they are good to themselves. It's a courageous attitude that stands up to harm, including the harm that we unwittingly inflict on ourselves through self-criticism, self-isolation, or self-absorption. Self-compassion provides emotional strength and resilience, allowing us to admit our shortcomings, motivate ourselves with kindness, forgive ourselves when needed, relate wholeheartedly to others, and be more authentically ourselves.
Rapidly expanding research demonstrates that self-compassion is strongly associated with emotional wellbeing, less anxiety, depression and stress, maintenance of healthy habits such as diet and exercise, and satisfying personal relationships. And it’s easier than you think.
- Practice self-compassion in daily life
- Understand the empirically-supported benefits of self-compassion
- Motivate yourself with kindness rather than criticism
- Handle difficult emotions with greater ease
- Transform challenging relationships, old and new
- Manage empathy fatigue
- Practice the art of savoring and self-appreciation
5:45-8:00 Wednesdays, March 7-April 25, 2018
390 Merrimon Ave., Asheville, NC 28801
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What To Expect
Program activities include meditation, short talks, experiential exercises, group discussion, and home practices. The goal is for participants to directly experience self-compassion and learn practices that evoke self-compassion in daily life. MSC is primarily a compassion-training program rather than mindfulness training like Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction (MBSR), although mindfulness is the foundation of self- compassion. MSC is also not psychotherapy insofar as the emphasis of MSC is on building emotional resources rather than addressing old wounds. Positive change occurs naturally as we develop the capacity to be with ourselves in a kinder, more compassionate way.
“Love reveals everything unlike itself” (Anon), so difficult emotions may arise when practicing self-compassion, MSC involves that balance of wisdom and compassion. As a MSC teachers we am committed to providing a safe, supportive environment for this process to unfold. At all times we emphasize, teach and cultivate ways of strengthening the connection with one’s own inner wisdom – treading gently and assuredly with this orientation of MSC.
MSC programs involve 8-weekly sessions of 21⁄2 hours and an additional 4 hour retreat day following the last class. Participants should plan to attend every session and practice mindful self-compassion at least 20-30 minutes per day throughout the program. No previous experience with mindfulness or meditation is required to attend MSC. We will personally call all potential participants prior to the program starting, this conversation allows time for us to answer any further questions people may have, and also ensures that people are fully aware of what the program involves.
It is recommended that participants read the following books before or during the program. Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself, by Kristin Neff The Mindful path to Self-Compassion, by Christopher Germer.
first he or she must have a basis upon which to cultivate compassion,
and that basis is the ability to connect to one’s own feelings and to care for one’s own welfare... Caring for others requires caring for oneself. ~ Tensin Gyatso, 14th Dalai Lama ~